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When one person wants more than the other, it can cause huge problems in the relationship. 

These problems aren’t always obvious though, which can leave you wondering whether or not your partner loves you at all.

No matter how much you want to be in a relationship, it’s never fun being the one who is always making the effort and taking initiative.

You probably think that if you just make yourself available enough, your partner will fall helplessly in love with you in return.

The signs you are begging for love are a lot like the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.

You may think that you are in a healthy relationship and that this is just how things are, but if you find yourself doing these things, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship.

If any one of these signs applies to you and your relationship, you’re begging for love.


1. You Are Needy

Neediness is a sign that you are not in a healthy relationship.

It is a sign of insecurity and low confidence.

You don’t know how to be happy being single because you only feel whole when someone else seems to validate who you are as a person by loving or liking you, which can change at any time.

If you’re always trying to get attention from your partner in order to feel good about yourself and your place in the world, then there might be some serious issues going on inside of you.

Neediness is the opposite of independence.

If you are codependent or too dependent in the relationship, it signals a sense of low self-worth.

The needier you are, the less happy you will be in your relationship and with your life.

If this describes your situation, it might be time to reevaluate things

2. You Keep Texting Him When He Doesn’t Respond


It’s not love, it’s a sign that you are begging for love.

You are trying to get his attention and make him feel guilty or sorry for you.

You start stalking his social media accounts just so you can see what he’s doing.

You don’t care if he’s ignoring you, it makes you feel good to show him how much you love him.

If he’s not in danger, in crisis, or genuinely busy, and doesn’t text back after hours and hours, it often means that he doesn’t have the same enthusiasm towards the relationship as you.

If he wants to talk to you, he will call or text back.

Put your energies elsewhere or find someone new.

3. You Change Who You Are for The Relationship

You change your taste in music, movies, and food.

You’ve become a different person in order to keep the relationship alive.

You focus on pleasing them rather than pleasing yourself.

You change your personality, values, beliefs, and lifestyle in order to mold into what they want.

It’s not them at all, but yourself.

You get swept up by love and decide that you will do whatever it takes to make them happy, even if it means changing yourself completely.

And not just temporary changes, they seem permanent because you don’t think your partner will like you any other way than the way they do now.

This makes you an emotional slave because you have given away complete control over your happiness.

If you have changed your behavior or appearance so that it will fit the desires of your partner, you are begging for love from them.

4. You ignore their abusive behavior and think it’s love


Abuse comes in many forms, physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual.

The worst thing you can do is to ignore abusive patterns in a partner.

Be aware of signs that someone is trying to control you negatively through isolating you from your friends and family, jealousy, and intimidation.

It’s not uncommon for people who are stuck in an abusive relationship or who feel lonely and unloved to try and make themselves believe that everything is fine as long as there’s someone around them.

If this applies to you, you’re seriously desperate for love.

5. You Take Them to Your Bed Before Your Heart


If you are taking a new partner to bed before you know them well, it’s one of the signs you are begging for love.

They leave and don’t call again.

How much of yourself are you willing to give away before your heart is taken?

Before you get into a relationship or initiate any form of closeness, check if you both have the required emotional and mental energy to sustain and maintain being a couple, to go out on dates, and make each other feel loved without feeling like it’s a chore.

If the answer is no, your heart isn’t ready to be with someone yet.

6. You overlook serious red flags

Just to have someone in your life, you ignore the fact that your partner is a pathological liar, unserious with his life or into a shady lifestyle.

It’s like when someone tells you that they’re an only child and then later on mentions having siblings.

If you’re willing to look past the fact that they have three children by three different women, or that their small talk consists entirely of complaining about their job and how much they hate it.

Instead of asking questions, you choose to ignore the whole thing.

You’re definitely begging for love.

There are times when we can become so desperate for companionship that we convince ourselves to look the other way despite all evidence pointing against us doing so safely.

7. Your Friends Warn You That He isn’t Worth It 

Your friends have been telling you for years that this guy isn’t right for you.

Most times because we are in love, we often don’t see glaring signs that someone is bad for us.

It does not mean that you are dumb or stupid, it happens to the best of us.

You might be in denial about the fact that this guy isn’t good for you, but if everyone around you is trying to tell you that it is an unhealthy situation for the both of you, maybe you should listen.

8. It is One-Sided

You are always available.

You’re always the one calling or texting.

He doesn’t even have to ask you for anything because you already know what he needs and wants.

You’re eager to please him.

You sacrifice your time and energy.

You go out of your way to make him happy.

You get anxious when you don’t hear from him.

You revolve your world around him.

You schedule everything around him.

You’re okay with being unhappy if it means they’re happy.

If this ain’t begging for love, I don’t know what is.

9. You Feel Guilty When Spending Time Away From Him


When someone truly loves you, they won’t expect you to give up everything in order to spend time with them.

They will realize that life happens and sometimes we have obligations beyond our partner’s immediate needs.

If you feel guilty when spending time away from him or if he complains about every little thing that takes up your time, then this could be a sign that he doesn’t trust or respect your independence or wants too much from you at once.

10. You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him After a Fight


When you get into an argument with your partner, it’s completely normal to feel angry or upset afterward.

However, your feelings go beyond anger.

You want to know why the fight happened and how you can make things better between the two of you.

If you can’t stop thinking about him and are eager to make up with him, then this could be a sign that you need more from the relationship than he is giving you.

Begging for love is only going to attract people who are going to take advantage of your vulnerability, and that is no way for anyone to live.

For everyone to live their best lives, we must learn how not to be needy when it comes to relationships with others.

Be careful that you are not hurting yourself in the process of wanting love.

Doing certain things to get your boyfriend’s attention might equal running around with a giant sign that says “Looking for Love”.

The result of these actions is that they send a message of desperation.

By recognizing these signs, you can stop them and step into your own power, as the smart woman that you are!


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