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How To Spice Up Sex in Your Marriage

How To Spice Up Sex in Your Marriage

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There is no doubt about it.

Sex can be exciting and fun, but for many couples, it becomes routine after a while. 

This can result in the passion between partners dying down over time. 

I’m sure you want sex to remain exciting throughout your marriage and not just at the beginning of your relationship. 

If so, come with me as I share some tips on how to spice up things in the bedroom in your married life:

 

How To Spice Up Intimacy in Your Marriage

1. Make It a Priority

Physical intimacy is an important part of your marriage. 

It’s natural for it to be something you both look forward to as much as possible, and yet somehow, it seems like many couples forget about it or put it off until later in the day when they have time. 

Don’t let other priorities get in the way of making time for it— make it a priority. 

You’re never going to spice things up if you don’t make it a priority. 

 

2. Be Spontaneous

How To Spice Up Sex in Your Marriage

While it’s advisable for couples to plan physical intimacy, especially if it has taken the back seat in their marriage due to the demands of life, going into a sexual encounter with a predetermined plan can also be sometimes unromantic and will take the fun out of it. 

Staying spontaneous and flexible by keeping your options open when you want to make love can keep things spicy in your marriage. 

For instance, a little flirting in the kitchen can lead to a fantastic romantic session right there. 

So, don’t be rigid. 

Let things flow naturally.

Let your desires lead you. 

 

3. Be Transparent With Your Desires

Being transparent about what turns you on will make it easier for your partner to give it to you. 

There are many ways this can be done: a dirty note, in person, or over the phone are all great ways to get started. 

But there’s no right or wrong way—the point is that once someone knows what they’re getting into with their partner, they’ll feel much more comfortable doing it. 

 

4. Avoid Distractions

You’re in bed, ready to go, but you can’t seem to get into it.

You aren’t engaging with your partner, and the mood just isn’t there.

It could be because of distractions, usually mental distractions. 

For a lot of women, physical intimacy is more psychological than physical. 

So, avoid distractions and be present. 

Don’t do other things or think of doing other things while getting intimate with your spouse.

Don’t watch TV, don’t answer the phone, don’t text or surf the internet, don’t think of household chores and the million things you have to do—just be present! 

 

5. Know Your Spouse’s Erogenous Zones

When it comes to physical intimacy in your marriage, it’s important to know your partner’s erogenous zones.

It’s easy to get caught up in the moment’s heat and forget what makes your partner tick.

But knowing how they like to be touched and what turns them on is one of the most important things you can do for your relationship.

An erotic zone is a sensitive area of the body that is more likely to lead to arousal in the person who owns that spot.

It’s different for everyone.

Some people like their ears kissed or their neck massaged; others prefer having their feet rubbed, or their hair played with.

You can find out where your partner’s erogenous zones are by asking them or looking at their body language.

Your partner may blush or get goosebumps when touched in a particular part of their body, which is a good sign that they enjoy being touched there.

 

6. Create The Right Ambience in The Bedroom

How To Spice Up Sex in Your Marriage

Use lighting to set the mood.

This can be as simple as turning on a few lamps or lighting candles.

Lighting can transform any room from boring to super sexy!

Try scented candles for an even more romantic atmosphere, such as Jasmine Vanilla or Lavender Vanilla. 

 

7. Maintain Eye Contact

It’s a great way to keep the connection between you and your partner.

It can also be very sexy because it’s so intimate.

It’s a step beyond just looking at each other because it involves locking eyes for an extended time.

This is a great way to show your partner that you’re interested in them and want to connect with them intimately.

 

8. Create Attraction By Looking Your Best

If you’re looking to spice up physical intimacy in your marriage, you need to start by making sure that your partner is attracted to YOU.

I know it sounds obvious, but it’s also easy to forget—especially when we get so caught up in the daily grind of life and all its demands on our time and attention.

But you have to make an effort to look good for yourself first. 

When you feel attractive and confident, it shows.

And when you look good, your spouse will notice, too. 

If you’re looking for some new ideas for how to improve your appearance, here are some ways to make sure you look your best:

-Wear clothes that fit well, and that flatter your body type.

-Get a haircut or color treatment that makes you feel amazing (and helps you feel like a million bucks).

-Buy some new makeup (or learn how to do it yourself).

-Invest in quality skincare products that keep your skin glowing and healthy.

-Go for a run or hit the gym, so you’re in shape. 

 

9. Embrace Kissing And Caressing

How To Spice Up Sex in Your Marriage

Kissing and caressing is an easy way to get things going.

Whether you are in the mood for some light kissing, or something more passionate, a kiss can set the tone for what’s to come.

Kissing can be used as foreplay and help build sexual tension before things get heated.

If the two of you are feeling it, try kissing each other all over your body. 

 

10. Try New Positions

We all have our favorite positions that work best, but sometimes it’s good to shake things up and try something different.

Bedroom 

Maybe you’ve always thought of the bedroom as a pretty one-dimensional place.

Still, there are many variations on your usual bed sex routine that can make your time together more interesting and exciting.

Living room 

If you’re feeling bold or just want to get away from what is usually considered “normal,” then why not relocate someplace else, like the living room?

Now’s the time for spontaneity!

 

11. Don’t Shy Away From Role Playing And Costumes

Role-playing can be a great way to reconnect with your spouse because it lets you get creative with your ideas about sex.

If you’ve been together for a while and feel like things are stale in the bedroom, try role-playing to add fun to your relationship.

It’s also a great way to introduce something new into your sex life. 

You don’t have to be a professional actor or actress, but it can be fun. 

It can be hard to find the right balance; you want to find a scenario that works for both of you and is sexy enough to get your blood flowing and give you an excuse to get creative.

 

12. Take a Shower Together

It’s a great way to relax and bond with your spouse, allowing you to get clean together and dirty (wink, wink).

It can be a great way to start or end your day with some good old-fashioned sexiness!

 

13. Send Your Spouse a Sexy Text

It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out thing—a quick “Hey, I’m thinking about you” or “You’re the sexiest person in the world!” will do.

But it’s something that can keep your mind on each other and help keep things interesting.

I love sending my husband sexy texts while he is at work.

It makes me feel like a naughty schoolgirl, and I know he will be thinking about me all day long. 

 

By implementing these tips on how to spice up sex in your marriage, you will see a difference in your relationship and enjoy each other more than ever. 

How To Spice Up Sex in Your Marriage