A common issue that couples face is how to initiate romantic activity.
How do you ask for sex, especially if you’re the shy type?
“What?” you might be asking.
“But it’s so obvious when I feel like having sex and when my partner does.”
You might be surprised to learn that this isn’t exactly the case.
There are many reasons why your partner might not know how you’re feeling about sex, or might have a different idea than you about what constitutes a good time.
You may even have different ideas about what constitutes a good time.
How do you communicate your needs and wants to your partner?
Here are some romantic ways make the first move:
17 Ways To Make The First Move on Your Partner
1. Whisper it in their ear
This is a classic, but it’s still great.
Whispering that you want to make love is incredibly intimate, and it can make your partner feel like you’re talking just to them.
It also adds a little bit of mystery and anticipation — they’ll wonder what you’re going to say, and then when they hear it, it will be even more exciting.
2. Send flowers with an attached note
Flowers are always romantic — but sending them with an attached note about how much you miss your partner’s body will make your message even more romantic than usual.
3. Write them a note
This one is particularly good.
Write your spouse a note telling them how much you miss them and how much you want to make love to them when they get home.
The thoughtfulness will be appreciated by your partner as well as making them feel loved and desired.
4. Give them a massage with a happy ending
You don’t have to be a professional masseuse to give your partner an incredible massage.
All you need is a little bit of knowledge, some oil and a few tips.
Start by pouring a generous amount of warm oil into your hands and rubbing them together to warm up the oil.
Then rub your hands over the entire surface of your partner’s body, focusing on areas that are tense or sore.
Once you’ve covered their entire body, start working on one specific area at a time.
Squeeze the muscles in their arms, legs and back with both hands and press down firmly on any knots that might be present.
If your partner is comfortable with it, ask them to take deep breaths as you work out any tightness in their muscles.
Finish off with gentle pressure points on their neck, shoulders and head.
This will help them relax further.
Then give them the happy ending (sex).
Don’t be surprised if they fall asleep and sleep like a baby after!
5. Look them in the eyes and tell them
You can look your partner in the eye and tell them how badly you want them.
Eye contact is a huge part of flirting and getting your message across.
6. Leave a note on the mirror that says, “I want you.”
This is simple and works so well and might even bring up some smiles on your partner’s lips.
4. Send chocolate with a note
Send them a chocolate box with a note that says, “Surprise me” or “I want to see you naked.”
5. Hotel invitation
You can go an extra mile by booking a hotel room and leaving an invitation on the bedside table with instructions on how you want to be pleasured when they arrive later that day (or night).
6. Send them a sexy text message
Sending sexy text messages is one of the simplest and commonest to let your partner know your intentions.
It doesn’t have to be long or elaborate, just suggestive enough to arouse their interest.
7. Send a sexy picture
Sending them a sexy picture can be fun and flirty.
You don’t have to send them the same picture over and over again, but if it works out that way, then go for it.
Include a message with the picture to make it more memorable.
Try something like “Can’t wait to see you.” or “I hope you’re having a great day.”
If you want to go all out with this type of proposal, try sending a video instead.
8. Use emojis to get your point across
The wink face emoji is a classic way to flirt and let someone know they’re on your mind.
The eggplant emoji is even nastier. 😁
9. Send a song lyric or line from a movie
There are so many songs whose lyrics can express exactly what you want to do with your partner.
Why not send those?
They’re not only romantic but fun and creative.
10. Take a bubble bath with them
This is an intimate experience that will bring you both closer together and later for some sexy time.
It also shows that you care about their comfort and well-being.
11. Make a call
Call them during your lunch break to leave a dirty voicemail saying what you’d like to do with them later — and that you’ll be waiting for them when they get home.
12. Weekend getaway
Plan a weekend getaway together — away from work and everything else that could ruin it (like kids).
Getting away for just one night can be just what you both need to recharge and reconnect with each other after a long week at work or dealing with family drama.
And the best part is that it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money.
13. Leave a trail of suggestive notes around the house
This is one of my favorite ways to get my husband in the mood.
He loves it when we leave each other little love notes throughout the house that only we can see or read.
It makes us feel like we’re on a secret mission together, so when we do find these little notes it’s like discovering treasure.
We always laugh so hard at what he wrote, because he can be such a goofball at times.
Send an email during the day telling them what you’d like to do when they get home from work.
It’s simple but works fine.
15. Music and cuddle
Turn on a romantic playlist as you cuddle with your partner on the couch.
Playfully say something like, “I dare you to kiss me somewhere new tonight” while sitting next to each other on the couch watching TV.
16. Buy what you want to see
Buy your partner some sexy lingerie and make it clear that you want to see them in it.
If this ain’t romantic, I don’t know what is.
17. Get suggestive with your hands
Touching is an important part of flirting and is one of the most effective ways to express love and affection.
It’s also a great way to let your spouse know you want some sexy time with them especially if you touch them in their erogenous zones.
So, if you’ve been considering getting your partner in the mood, but aren’t sure how to go about it, I hope this article helped.
You don’t have to be an expert in seduction techniques to make lovemaking a pleasurable experience for both of you.
These 17 tips will teach you how to get the romance flowing in your relationship and leave your partner feeling desired and wanted.