So, you’re single and ready to mingle.
You’ve downloaded all the dating apps, gone on a few first dates, and maybe even second or third dates.
But so far, no luck.
What gives? Maybe it’s not them; it’s you. Or specifically, it’s God.
Perhaps you are still single because God is preparing you for a relationship.
Here are ten signs God is preparing you for a relationship:
10 Signs God is Preparing You for a Relationship
1. You’re suddenly interested in your outward appearances
One of the first things that God does when He’s preparing you for a relationship is He starts to work on your outward appearance.
Suddenly, you care about the way you look and what you wear.
You want to make a good impression, not just on potential suitors but also on yourself.
After all, if you don’t love and appreciate yourself, why would anyone else?
You might think that what’s on the inside is more important than what’s on the outside, but in the business of dating and humans, looks matter.
People will be attracted to your outward appearance before they even have a chance to get to know you, so it’s important to make sure that you are presenting the best version of yourself.
2. Your social media usage changes
If you’re like most people these days, social media plays a significant role in your life.
And when God is preparing you for a relationship, your social media usage changes.
You’re more interested in posting pictures and updates that show the positive aspects of your life instead of just complaining about the negative stuff.
Because you want to attract someone who will be attracted to the real you—not just some negative Nelly who is always complaining online or posting raunchy photos.
No, you want someone who will appreciate the beautiful, unique person that God has created in you—and that starts with how you present yourself online.
3. Your circle of friends gets smaller
When God is preparing you for a relationship, He often prunes your circle of friends.
For example, if there are toxic people in your life who are always putting down relationships or putting up roadblocks whenever you try to date someone, God will remove them from your life.
This is because He knows that healthy relationships require healthy support systems—and He wants nothing but the best for you.
This is why you shouldn’t force people to stay in your life who don’t want to be there—because ultimately, it’s not healthy for you or for any future relationship you might have.
4. Your priorities start to change
If you’re like most people, when you’re single, your priority is often having fun and enjoying the single life—and that’s fine!
But when God is preparing you for a relationship, your priorities start to change.
You find yourself wanting to settle down and find someone with whom you can share your life—someone who shares your values and with whom you can build a future together.
This doesn’t mean that you have to give up all of your fun and single friends, but it does mean that your priorities are starting to change in preparation for a relationship.
5. You start paying more attention to detail
When God is preparing you for a relationship, He sharpens your eye for detail, especially regarding potential mates.
Instead of just seeing “a hot guy” or “a pretty girl,” you start noticing whether they have their life together or if they share any common interests with you.
This attention to detail helps ensure that when you enter into a relationship, it will be with someone compatible with you on many levels—not just superficial ones.
While chemistry is important, it’s not the be-all, end-all of a relationship.
You start focusing on compatibility more as you realize that a lasting relationship requires more than just physical attraction.
6. Your attitude towards relationships changed dramatically
If we’re being honest here, sometimes our attitudes towards relationships can be less than positive — especially if we’ve been hurt in the past.
But our attitude towards relationships usually changes when God prepares us for a new relationship.
You could start getting more optimistic about finding love, more open to trying new things, and more willing to take risks.
This change in attitude usually happens because we finally realize that we deserve better than what we’ve settled for in the past — and that we’re worth fighting (or waiting) for.
7. You are praying more about and for your partner
Of course, this one is a bit more difficult to gauge since you might not know who your future partner is just yet.
But when God is preparing you for a relationship, you often find yourself drawn to prayer in a way that you weren’t before.
You start praying for your future partner (even if you don’t know who they are yet) and ask God to help you be the best partner possible.
You might also start praying more for relationships, whether for friends, family members, or even strangers.
This change usually happens because we finally realize that we need God’s help to navigate the complicated world of relationships.
8. He uses situations and circumstances to help you grow and mature
When God is preparing you for a relationship, He often uses situations and circumstances to help you grow and mature—even if it’s not always fun.
For example, you might become more patient with difficult people, e.g., a difficult boss, neighbor, or colleague.
Even though it might not feel like it at the time, these difficult experiences can help prepare you for a healthy and happy relationship.
They help teach us how to communicate effectively, handle conflict, and compromise—all of which are essential for any successful relationship.
9. You desire to learn more about relationships and marriage
When God prepares you for a relationship, you often desire to learn more about relationships and marriage.
You might start reading books on the subject, attending seminars or workshops, or even talking to friends or family members in healthy and happy relationships.
This desire to learn usually comes from wanting to be the best possible partner we can be.
We want to enter into our future relationships armed with as much knowledge and wisdom as possible to avoid making the same mistakes we’ve seen others make in the past.
10. You feel ready for a relationship
This one is probably the most important sign of all.
When God is preparing you for a relationship, you suddenly feel ready for one—even if you didn’t before.
Suddenly, the thought of being in a relationship doesn’t scare you like it used to.
You might even find yourself feeling excited about the prospect of finding love.
This feeling of readiness usually comes from a place of personal growth and maturity.
We realize that we’ve finally reached a place in our lives where we’re ready to open our hearts to someone new.
These are just some of the signs that God is preparing you for a relationship.
Don’t lose hope if you’re single and have been wondering if you’ll ever find love.
God has a plan for your life and will bring the right person into it at the perfect time.
Just be patient and trust that His timing is always best.