Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it’s one that you want to make sure you’re making the right decision.
So you’ve met a great guy, and you’re pretty sure he’s “the one.”
But how can you be sure that God wants you to marry him?
After all, you want to be sure that you’re following God’s will for your life and not just your own.
Here are signs that God wants you to marry him:
12 Signs God Wants You to Marry Him
1. He Respects You
One of the most important things in any relationship is respect.
Does he treat you with respect?
Does he speak to you kindly?
Does he listen to your opinions and value your input?
A man who respects you is a man who values you and sees you as an equal partner.
This is the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Will he offend you sometimes?
Will you hurt you with his words sometimes?
Of course!
But does he apologize and make it right?
If so, that is a sign of respect.
Otherwise, that’d lead to emotional abuse, and that’s not the will of God for you.
The Bible commands husbands to treat their wives with honor in
1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) ”Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”
If a guy isn’t treating you with respect before marriage, he’s not likely to start doing so after you tie the knot.
2. He Shares Your Values and Beliefs
It’s important to be with someone who has the same values and beliefs as you do.
This ensures mutual understanding, shared goals, and a happy marriage.
You’ll likely clash if you don’t have shared values, and your relationship won’t be successful.
You should take some time to discuss the things that are important to you in life.
Do you both have a shared commitment to serving God?
Do you share the same views on money and family?
Do you view marriage and parenting in the same way?
Are there issues on which you disagree?
How can you healthily work through them?
These conversations will help determine if he is a good fit for a long-term commitment.
But don’t mistake compatibility for sameness — being similar isn’t the same thing as being identical.
A person who is nearly identical to you in every way might be boring or frustrating, but someone who shares your values and interests can be fun to hang out with.
Plus, marriage work on the compatibility of values, not just love or physical attraction.
Love and physical attraction are important, but there’s more to making a union work than that.
3. He’s Ready to Commit Himself Fully to Marriage
Is he ready to make the commitment necessary for marriage?
This includes being emotionally and financially ready to support a wife and possibly children.
It also means being ready to make the sacrifices necessary to maintain a healthy, happy marriage.
If he’s not ready for this level of commitment, aka commitment-phobic, then he’s not ready for marriage—plain and simple.
4. He Wants What’s Best for You
A man God desires for you will be concerned with your well-being as much as his own.
He will support your career, educational goals, and dreams because he wants you to be happy.
If he’s only looking out for himself and not considering your best interests when making decisions, that’s a red flag.
You want someone who will care about your growth and happiness.
5. You Feel Peace in Your Heart
You can’t put a price on peace.
When God wants something for you, He speaks peace into your heart.
Once you have prayerfully considered the man in your life, if you feel a sense of peace about him and your relationship, God likely wants you to marry him.
6. You Have a Lot in Common And Enjoy Each Other’s Company
The best relationships are built on a foundation of friendship.
If you can’t spend time with your prospective partner and genuinely enjoy each other’s company, then why would you want to marry them?
Take your time to get to know each other, and ensure you have a lot in common.
Enjoying the same hobbies, having similar senses of humor, and being able to communicate openly with one another are all important ingredients for a successful marriage.
So if you can talk to each other about anything and everything, that’s a good sign.
7. Your Spiritual Mentors And Loved Ones Are in Support of Your Relationship
It can be helpful to get advice and counsel from those who are wise, experienced, and knowledgeable about relationships.
Ask your pastor or close friends for their opinion on the person you’re considering marrying.
If they share God’s peace with you and believe that He is leading you in this direction, then it could be a sign that he is the one God has chosen for you.
However, if they express any doubts or reservations about your relationship, it may be wise to consider them before making the commitment of marriage.
8. He Shares Your Vision for the Future
When deciding whether or not someone is right for you, it’s important to consider your vision for the future.
Do you both want the same things out of life?
Are you on the same page when it comes to finances and career paths?
What are your thoughts on having children?
If you don’t share the same vision, it could lead to issues.
Take time to discuss these topics with your partner and make sure that you’re both on the same page.
These conversations will help ensure that you are entering into a marriage with compatible goals in mind.
Amos 3:3 says, ”Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” New Living Translation
9. You Feel Safe and Secure with Him
God wants you to feel safe in your relationship.
If your partner makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, then that’s a sign that this is not the right relationship for you.
You should always be able to trust and rely on your spouse, so take time to evaluate how safe and secure you feel in your relationship before deciding to marry someone.
10. He Knows What He Wants in Life And is Working Toward It
A man who knows what he wants in life is a man who will make sure he gets there — which means he won’t waste time with a woman who isn’t his future wife or, even worse, waste her time with him.
A guy who has his life together knows what he wants out of it and wants to spend it with someone who shares those same goals.
If your guy knows is not confused about what he wants out of life, and you see yourself fitting into his goals, that’s a great sign!
11. You’re Comfortable Being Yourself Around Him
You can be your goofy, silly self and he doesn’t think you’re weird.
He will even join in on the fun!
You can be vulnerable and share your feelings without worrying he will judge you.
This is a sign of true intimacy, which is one of the most important elements in a healthy marriage.
If you have found someone who makes you feel comfortable being yourself, that’s a great indication that God would want that for you.
12. You Sense God’s Will in Your Spirit
When all else fails, it’s important to trust in God’s will for your life.
When it comes to marriage, you should take your time to get to know the person and ensure they meet all of the other criteria mentioned above.
Prayerfully consider your decision and listen for God’s voice as you trust Him to lead you in the right direction.
If you sense that He is leading you to marry this person, then it’s likely that they are the right one for you.
The Bible says, in Romans 8:14, ”For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God.” New Living Translation
As a child of God, you have the spirit of God in you; the Holy Spirit will help you discern whether you are with the right person or not; if you are sensitive to Him.
These signs should help guide you as you seek God’s will for your relationship and decide whether or not a man is the one He desires for you.
Remember to keep God at the center of your decision-making process and rely on His wisdom when finding a husband.
Trust that He will give you the courage, strength, and clarity to make the right choice about your future relationship.
Let me say this, however, that even if God wants you to marry someone, it doesn’t automatically mean your marriage will work out or be successful; it is still up to you two and the effort each of you put into making your marriage work.
God can bring you together, but you have to keep Him at the center of your marriage and apply His principles to make it last.
God bless, and happy dating!
