Many women have sworn off marriage—for whatever reason—and it’s okay.
They don’t want marriage and whatever comes with it.
They enjoy being single and free and not having to deal with men problems.
However, for many women, marriage is still a great desire.
They long to have a family of their own, and that’s also cool.
What’s not cool is being with a guy who doesn’t share your desire for matrimony.
That’s why you need to know signs he will never marry you so you can make important decisions about your future.
7 Signs He Will Never Marry You
1. He avoids discussing marriage or the future of your relationship
One of the ways you’ll know a man will marry you is that you guys have discussions about marriage or the future of your relationship.
Even if you’re both not ready for marriage or if he hasn’t proposed yet, you know that’s where your relationship is headed because you talk about it.
I wasn’t ready for marriage when my boyfriend (now husband) started talking to me about marriage.
In fact, that was his goal from the start.
So I knew his intention and what he wanted from me.
It’s normal for couples, especially ones in a long-term relationship, to discuss their plans and aspirations.
This includes conversations about marriage, starting a family, buying a home, and other long-term commitments.
But if your guy is unwilling to engage in these conversations or consistently changes the subject when you broach it, it’s a sign he is not thinking about marriage or that he has no intention of taking the relationship to the next level.
It’s no surprise that partners willing to have these conversations and make plans together are more likely to be committed to their relationship and are more likely to think about marriage than those who never talk about it.
2. He has not introduced you to his family or close friends
If a guy has yet to introduce you to his family or close friends, he may never marry you.
Introducing your partner to your family and friends is so common that it should be an obvious thing to do if you’re serious about them.
But it can be a very telling sign if you’ve been dating a guy for a while and he hasn’t brought you around.
It could mean he’s not ready to commit or h,e doesn’t have any intentions of ever getting married.
Introducing his girlfriend to his family is a huge step for most people—and if he hasn’t taken it yet, maybe he doesn’t see you as the one.
Although some guys may still introduce you to their circle and not marry you, that doesn’t change the fact that a guy who doesn’t introduce you to his people is not serious about you, especially if you’ve been together for a while.
Or if you’ve been asking about it and he keeps posting you.
3. He says” I” instead of “we” when talking about his future plans
One of the most common signs a guy will never marry you is when he says “I” instead of “we” when talking about his future plans.
This is because, more often than not, guys who are not ready to settle down and get married don’t see themselves as part of a team.
They are more likely to think in terms of “me” and “you”—two separate entities.
So, he has plans.
He does.
But those plans do not include you.
4. He’s scared of commitment
When it comes to marriage, commitment is a big deal.
In fact, marriage is all about commitment.
It’s the decision to stick to one person, come rain, come sunshine.
Commitment is also the willingness to invest time, energy, and resources into a relationship and make sacrifices for your partner.
A man scared of commitment will be unwilling to make sacrifices, compromise, or make long-term plans with you.
It’s a fact that most men are scared of commitment.
But not all men.
Some men are just so afraid of it that they’ll do anything to avoid it, even if it means avoiding marriage altogether.
That’s where the term “commitment-phobic” comes from—a fear of commitment.
If your guy keeps telling you he’s “not ready for a relationship” or that he doesn’t want to get married anytime soon, he’s telling you not to expect marriage from him.
5. He’s not financially stable, and he’s not doing anything about it
One of the most critical signs that a guy will never marry you is he’s not financially stable.
You might be wondering how this can signify that a guy won’t marry you, but it’s obvious enough, sis.
If a man isn’t financially stable, it means that he doesn’t have enough money to support himself or his future family.
Financial stability is a crucial part of a successful marriage.
You can’t have a long-lasting marriage without it, and you can’t have one without the financial stability that comes with your partner having a good job or supporting you financially.
So if your guy is living paycheck-to-paycheck, if he never seems to save any money if he doesn’t have any savings—or even worse, if he has debt—then there’s no way he’ll ever be able to support you and take care of your family when you get married.
6. His friends are single and serial daters
I know, I know.
It’s not fair to judge someone based on their friends.
But in this case, you should.
Because a man’s friends are often a reflection of who he is.
“Show me your friend, and I’ll tell you who you are.”
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
If your guy spends all his time with guys constantly trying to get laid and have no interest in settling down, he’s likely to be like them too.
That’s not to say that every guy who hangs out with a bunch of single dudes who only want to hook up will never marry anyone.
But he may not be ready for the kind of commitment marriage represents—or at least not yet.
The story of Iyanna and Jarrett of Love is Blind, season 2, is an excellent example.
Even though the duo had great chemistry and were in love, they couldn’t make their marriage work because Jarrett chose his (single and club-going) friends and the street over his marriage.
7. He has wandering eyes
A man who is willing to look at other women, even if he doesn’t pursue them, is unlikely to be interested in marrying you.
It’s not necessarily that he doesn’t like you, but rather that he has other options.
He may be more interested in playing the field and seeing what else is out there than settling down with one woman and starting a family.
If your man can’t keep his eyes—and hands—to himself when other attractive women are around, you might be with a time-waster.
If you can relate to these signs, share your concerns with him and ask him about his intentions toward you.
Initiate the discussion on the future of your relationship.
If he still doesn’t want to talk about where your relationship is headed, you should decide based on what you want.
Do you want marriage?
Do you want to keep dating him until he decides what he wants with you?
The ball is in your court!
Hi, me and my boyfriend are together for more than a year and a half now but their is things that I don’t understand, he still talks about he or I have to go there or something like that and he never talks about we, and what is also heartbreaking for me is he didn’t even put me on his Facebook to say that we are in a relationship, their is alot of things I cannot see on his Facebook he hides that things from me, sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do, and I have the same dream more than once of him and this one girl, she’s is not even a proper person she likes to sleep around and actually don’t have a good repetition, I don’t understand, sometimes I feel that their is something wrong with or what do I do wrong, I really don’t know 😟
Apparently, you guys are not on the same page. If you feel deeply that something isn’t right, it’s probably not right.
You should communicate with him while you also trust your instincts.
I have been there. He doesn’t want a real relationship. He is keeping his options open. I had this to happen more than once. He will hurt you…leave so you can find the one who will love you forever.