God wants us to be happy, but he also wants us to make good decisions.
When it comes to dating, we all want our relationships to be God-honoring and healthy.
But sometimes, your heart can get ahead of your head, and you might jump into a relationship before you’re ready.
If you sense that you may be on the brink of jumping into a bad relationship, here are some signs God is protecting you from a bad relationship:
10 Signs God is Protecting You From a Bad Relationship
1. You know the person’s past
You know their history and character and don’t want any part of it.
You can see the red flags waving in the air, but they’re not just waving at you — they’re also waving at everyone who has come into contact with this person.
What makes you different?
You’re not trying to be judgmental, but they have made promises to change before but haven’t followed through on them; if they have promised to improve themselves in the past without success, why should you believe them now?
No matter how sincere they say they will change this time, history always repeats itself.
You deserve better than someone who has such a questionable moral compass.
2. You feel like they are just using you
When it comes to relationships, we want someone who will treat us like gold and not take advantage of us or our resources.
However, some people will try to use others for their gain, and this isn’t something that should be tolerated at all.
If you feel like the person you’re dating is only interested in what they can gain from being with you — money, status, sex— instead of genuinely caring about you, it’s a sign God is protecting you from a disastrous relationship.
A person who wants only what they can get from a relationship doesn’t trust their partner or respect them enough to be faithful or honest.
They may use lies and manipulation to get what they want from their partner, but in the end, it won’t last because they don’t have your best interests at heart.
3. Your guts tell you something is off
Sometimes, it is hard to know when you’re in a bad relationship.
You may not see the signs of abuse or manipulation, especially if you are experiencing them yourself.
You may be afraid that you are imagining things or just being paranoid.
But one thing that will always tell you when something is off is your gut instinct.
If something doesn’t feel right in your relationship, listen to it.
God is using your intuition to save you from a bad relationship.
4. You’re not attracted to them
When you are attracted to someone, it’s easy to convince yourself that this person is made for you and that they would never hurt you.
But if you’re not attracted to them, it’s a sign that your heart isn’t in it.
If spending time with someone makes you feel bored, irritated, or frustrated — instead of happy — then it’s probably not a good idea to continue seeing them.
God wants you to be with someone whose company you enjoy and someone you can’t have enough of.
5. You don’t feel like yourself around them
This doesn’t mean that the other person is changing who you are, but rather that something about their personality makes you want to change and be someone else when you’re around them.
If this happens more than once, it’s a sign that this relationship isn’t meant to be long-term or permanent.
You should be with someone you can be yourself with, and if that’s not happening, you might pretend for the rest of your life if you settle for this person.
6. You’re constantly arguing with them about petty things (or nothing at all)
I can relate to this because I’ve been in a relationship with someone with whom I had great chemistry.
But we always argued.
It was just draining, and even though we loved each other, there was no way I would risk my destiny and marry someone I couldn’t be on the same page with, even in simple matters.
When two people are meant for each other, they can have disagreements over silly things without lasting too long or causing any real problems in their relationship.
However, if arguments always seem to escalate into major fights over small things like where to go out on Friday night or what movie to see next weekend, what then would happen when it comes to discussing big issues like marriage, whether to live, how many kids to have, how to raise the kids, etc.?
So if you disagree more than you agree, it’s a sign you’ll end up in a bad relationship and marriage if you choose to go ahead.
7. You find yourself thinking about breaking up with this person often
When you find yourself thinking about breaking up with this person often, it could be a sign that you’re not meant to be together.
It’s natural to have doubts when you’re in a relationship, but if those doubts are persistent and getting in the way of your happiness, then it may be time to reevaluate whether or not this person is right for you.
If you’re having trouble focusing on the good things in your relationship, it may be time to consider moving on.
The more you think about ending it, the more likely you will do so.
Plus, if you’re constantly thinking about how much better things could be if you weren’t with this person, it’s a sure sign that God is trying to tell you something.
8. You find out they’re cheating
It’s easy to fall into a trap of thinking we can change people who aren’t good for us, but if someone isn’t willing to treat us well now, why would they ever change?
And even if they try changing, why would we want someone who doesn’t respect us enough not to cheat on us?
If you catch them cheating, God wants to rescue you from a marriage of unfaithfulness.
9. Your loved ones tell you
Your friends and family love you, and they want to protect you from bad relationships.
They will often tell you when they see red flags in your relationship or if they think a relationship will end badly.
If your loved ones tell you that the relationship is unhealthy or toxic, it’s probably a sign that God is protecting you from a bad relationship.
10. They break up with you
This is perhaps the biggest sign.
If they break up with you, they were never meant for you in the first place.
So if someone breaks up with you, take it as a sign from God that this isn’t your person.
God has something better in store for you.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t right for you, God will protect you from it.
Sometimes we get so caught up in the drama of a bad relationship that it’s hard to see the signs that God is protecting us from something bad.
But these are some ways to know if God is trying to get your attention about a problem in your relationship — even when the other person doesn’t want to hear it.
But remember, God wants only good things for you and will protect you from anything that isn’t good for your soul.
Even if that means ending a relationship that doesn’t align with His will for your life, He will take care of you during that transition and help you heal from the emotional trauma that comes with it.
God loves us so much that He wants us to find love in His timing — not ours.
He also knows what is best for our lives and wants us to experience joy in every area of our lives — including relationships.