13 Signs God is Showing You Someone is Not Right For You 

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What are signs God is showing you someone is not right for you? 

So you’re in love!

You’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and nothing can stop you from telling them how much you care about them. 

That’s great. 

But it’s also a good idea to make sure that this person is someone who will be good for you. 

Just because two people share feelings for each other doesn’t mean they’re meant to be together forever. 

So how do we ensure we are dating people who are right for us? 

One way is to pay attention to what God wants us to do. 

If this sounds weird or over-the-top, then let me explain why I believe this is true. 

God knows what kind of relationship would lead us towards His purposes for our lives, and if He says no, then it means that person wouldn’t take us closer towards those goals. 

Here are some signs that God might be showing you someone isn’t right for your future happiness together:

 

13 Signs God is Showing You Someone is Not Right For You 

1. They don’t listen to you.

When a person does not listen to you, it is an obvious sign of disrespect and shows they are not right for you. 

People who love and respect each other value each other’s opinions and thoughts.

Maybe your partner doesn’t even care enough about what you have to say because they’re too busy thinking about themselves (which is a sign of selfishness). 

Whatever the case, if someone doesn’t pay attention when you speak about yourself or your needs, or worse yet, doesn’t seem interested at all, then it’s a sign you’ll have your needs ignored in the future. 

 

2. You feel like you can do better. 

If you constantly think to yourself, “I could find someone better.” 

Or perhaps, you wonder if there is someone else out there who’s more suited to your needs and desires.

You keep feeling that you deserve more than what the person in question is offering. 

It might signify that God has bigger plans for your life that don’t include the person you’re currently dating. 

 

3. Your friends and family don’t like them.

Whether a friend or family member, most of us have someone in our inner circle who is a great source of advice and support. 

They can offer a different perspective, help you see the situation more clearly, and—most importantly—keep you from making dumb decisions.

So if your friends and family don’t like this person you’re dating, there’s probably a reason, and you shouldn’t ignore it. 

People who love you will want what is best for you. 

 

4. They take advantage of you.

You should be able to tell if someone is taking advantage of you or not.

If they ask for a lot of help, but don’t reciprocate, then they’re probably using you. 

Or if they’re only interested in sex and not knowing you, you’ve entered the wrong boat. 

God will never let you be with someone who is in your life because of what they can get from you. 

So if you’re noticing signs that your partner is taking advantage of you, it’s a sign God is saying they’re not for you. 

 

5. Their words aren’t consistent with their actions.

They say they will do something but never follow through.

They say they care about you but don’t act like it.

If their words are inconsistent with their actions, this person is not right for you.

A person who sends you mixed signals isn’t the one from God to you. 

 

6. They make you more anxious or nervous than calm or secure.

You might wonder why this is a sign from God that someone is not right for you. 

It’s because anxiety and fear aren’t normal feelings to have in a relationship.

When someone is God’s choice for you, you should be at peace, even amid doubts. 

Also, when we trust someone, we don’t worry about what they might do or say in the future. 

We know they love us unconditionally and would never do anything to hurt us. 

So if the person who claims to love you makes you feel uneasy or on edge, it could be a sign that their intentions aren’t pure enough for them to be worthy of your trust and affections.

 

7. They play games with your heart and emotions.

When someone is uninterested in you, they will often tell you that they are interested to see if you’ll go away. 

They might say, “I’m not ready for a relationship.” 

Or, “I just got out of a bad relationship.” 

Yet they keep texting and calling you. 

They’re confusing. 

You don’t know what they want, and you keep guessing. 

That’s a sign you’ve not reached your marital destiny yet. 

 

8. You can’t imagine a future with them in it.

One of the most important signs God gives you that someone is not right for you is if you can’t imagine yourself in a future with them. 

If it’s difficult to imagine yourself being with this person five years from now, getting married, having children, or growing old with them, chances are they’re not right for you. 

I remember this happened with my ex and me. 

Make no mistake—we were very much in love. 

But somehow, I just couldn’t imagine both of us as a married couple, and we didn’t end up as one. 

If you can’t picture your partner as your future spouse, maybe that’s not who they’d be to you. 

 

9. You have very different beliefs and values.

If you and your partner have very different beliefs and values, this can be a deal breaker. 

You may not be able to agree on important issues such as the sanctity of life, the role of government in regulating public morality, or social issues like abortion rights. 

If you believe a woman should have access to safe and affordable abortions and your partner does not—or vice versa—you’ll spend countless hours arguing about these kinds of topics.

On top of that, if you value something differently than they do, then there will be times when one person feels unheard by their significant other (and visa versa). 

Another example, maybe you believe it’s important for children to learn at home instead of going through traditional schooling, while your partner sees school as an invaluable resource for education and socialization. 

Or your partner believes that going into debt is always wrong, while you think that sometimes it’s necessary. 

Even though both sides are valid perspectives within themselves, differences in values can lead couples astray when trying to negotiate solutions together, especially when those solutions involve major financial decisions. 

You don’t have to agree on everything, but there are some major areas where you just have to be on the same page. 

If that’s not the case, it’s a warning signal you shouldn’t miss. 

 

10. They’ve gotten physically or verbally abusive with you more than once.

Physical abuse is more obvious than verbal abuse, but while physical abuse may leave bruises and scars, verbal abuse can be just as damaging. 

Verbal abuse doesn’t always come in the form of yelling or screaming—it can also be subtle comments that impact your feelings about yourself, like being made fun of or told you’re worthless. 

Verbal abusers often use manipulation tactics like guilt-tripping their victims into staying with them, making it less likely for victims to leave their abusive partners because they don’t think they deserve better treatment (or maybe even love).

If someone has gotten violent with you more than once or they’ve been verbally abusive too, it’s a huge sign that God is telling you they are not right for you! 

Don’t deceive yourself that God has brought them into your life to change them. 

Because you’ll be too damaged to wield any influence on them.

You can help them without getting romantically entangled with them.

 

11. You feel like you’re doing all the work in your relationship.

When a relationship is working, it’s because both partners are putting effort into making it happen. 

However, if you find yourself constantly initiating contact, conversation, and conflict resolution with your partner, this could indicate that they aren’t as invested in your relationship as they should be. 

 

12. They act like everything is fine, but deep down, you know it isn’t.

You feel like you’re in a relationship that’s not working.

Even though your partner acts like all is well, you feel something is off, and you can’t pinpoint what it is.

If any of these resonates with you, you are not in the right relationship.

Just because your partner acts like everything is fine doesn’t mean that’s the case.

If anything, their actions and unwillingness to fix problems point toward them not being right for you.

They’re probably just putting up appearances because they don’t want to break up with you or lose your attention.

 

13. They are unsupportive of your dreams and aspirations.

Sometimes, we can get so caught up in our day-to-day life that we forget that our lives have meaning.

We get lost in the mundane and start to feel like what we do doesn’t have any purpose.

We need to remember that God has a plan for each of us, and it’s not just about going to work or paying bills or getting married and having kids.

God has bigger plans for your life than those things.

He wants you to live a life of purpose—a purpose that goes beyond just yourself.

The person you choose to spend your life with should be someone who supports your goals, dreams, and aspirations.

This means encouraging you when times are tough, being willing to help support any project related to those goals, being part of the journey toward achieving them, supporting you in achieving them (which could mean sacrificing their free time)…you get the idea. 

If you are not getting positive vibes from the person you are dating when you share your God-given dreams with them, abort mission!

They’re not for you.

If you feel like someone is not right for you, then it’s probably time to listen to your heart.

God has a plan and purpose for your life and if God is showing you this person isn’t part of it, let them go!